I know there is so much more I will learn and I know my son will continue to improve his coping and problem solving so that we will be a harmonious family. Prior to the program, I spent money on therapy, expensive guilt gifts, time off work to think and sometimes just to cry. Now my days off of work are for vacations, chaperoning field trips and when my children are sick and want me home with them.
I no longer buy expensive guilt gifts. My son buys himself things with money he earns from his chores and helping neighbors shovel snow. I am enjoying my son and my children and try to find ways to spend time with them because I enjoy the peace that this program is restoring to my home.
I'm halfway into the program I have started to implement only a few so far, and have seen improvement in my teenager's behaviour. Thank you for helping to see that she isn't a bad kid My son is now 21 years old, after having his own place for over 6 months he was forced by circumstance to move back home I couldn't find help anywhere in my community for what we were experiencing. I remembered seeing and hearing ads for Total Transformation and after I looked a little closer I decided to give it a go.
At that point I was really desperate for a solution. Between the time I ordered the program and the time I received it things deteriorated to the point that I had to call the police on my son and due to his behavior with them he wound up being arrested.
My son spent 48 hours in jail and being psychologically evaluated. During that time I received Total Transformation and immediately began watching and listening to the program. The information provided was nothing short of transformational, for me, for my son, for our family The program totally transformed our family and took away the wedge that was dividing us. I have more control, patience and communication with out teenager and nine year old.
I no longer dread family activities or trips. It has also taught our children how to communicate and support each other. I had my doubts about program at beginning, but am a believer now. I recommend this to all parents whom are at wits end with thier unruly children. We are disappointed to hear that you have not yet been successful with our program. We strive to create the most effective programs to help families who are struggling with non-compliant and abusive children.
We understand that each family situation is unique and we are quite confident that the program can work for most parents and most situations. We also know, however, that things can be discouraging when you are not seeing the results with the program as quickly as you hoped. If you would like help working the tools in the program with your family, please call our Parental Support Specialists. Know that you are not alone and there is a community and a program to support families like yours for as long as you need assistance.
I am a single grandmother who has legal custody of my 11 year-old grandson who was exhibiting oppositional defiant behavior on a regular basis. Life was very chaotic. The Total Transformation Program improved my grandson's behavior from the very first disk they sent to me.
My grandson is much more cooperative when I use the information I have been given by the Total Transformation Program. Many of our consumers have found themselves in similar situations—they too have great intentions by trying to help their families, only to find that the situation has changed to where they feel they can no longer use, or even begin to use, the program.
We hope that your family can do the same. We certainly apologize that your experience was not favorable. Though your circumstances changed unexpectedly, we encourage you and your daughter to hold on to the Total Transformation Program for future knowledge from its offerings when your home or hers is graced with the presence of a child.
Alternatively, may we suggest that you donate the program to another family in need or educator that may make more immediate use of the program? We hold all consumers to the same standards and uphold our policies so that we can remain consistent and fair with all of our consumers. This said, each consumer's postmark date differs due to the fact that the start of the timeframe to postmark a survey is based on when the consumer's package is delivered.
Unfortunately, we have no way of knowing any delivery date until the package is actually delivered. In regards to your experience with our Customer Service Department, we sincerely apologize that you had a negative experience.
We hope that even though you did not qualify for a refund for your survey, you have found and will continue to find successes with your family in using the tools and techniques from The Total Transformation Program.
It's like a degree turn around,It has changed her for the better. I'm happy that I had the chance to try the disc. I'm satisfied. I felt like I was a good parent but needed some more options of dealing with Pre-Teen behaviors. This product gave me some excellent ideas and options for handling behaviors not just "the same ole way"! Thanks TTF! Thank you for sharing your disappointment with the Total Transformation Program. We do appreciate candid feedback- both good and bad. We do find that many of our consumers are successful in using a good portion of the program even with very young children because they want to be proactive, however, we understand the situation in every household is different and each child is unique.
This being said, using many of the tools and techniques from the program can provide results with younger children, such as a three year old. Typically, by the time the average child reaches the age of five, he or she should have the ability to follow all the concepts that the Total Transformation Program provides.
We do understand that each child is different and only you can know for sure what is right for your child. In regards to the Feedback Survey Promotion, we apologize that you felt you could not complete the survey for a refund. The intent of the Feedback Survey Promotion is to gain a better understanding of what is, and what is not, beneficial for parents by asking for honest feedback even if you may not be able to apply all of the tools in the program.
We truly hope that you will find the successes from all of the tools offered in the Total Transformation Program and apply each tool effectively as your child grows and matures.
I am very pleased with how I have learned from this program. I can now see which is more important to work on, and there is less fighting. I know how to explain and not order. Children now know what is expected and how to use words for problems, not that they always use them but they usually know when they have been wrong and will apologize or try to fix.
We are thrilled that you found The Total Transformation Program informative and easy to listen to as your first experience with our programs. Our core mission is to provide parents with a program that can really make a positive difference with their family, while also making it cost effective.
While it is concerning that your impression of our website is that it is unclear and deceptive, we do appreciate your candor. It will enable us to continually strive to present the terms and cost of our programs as clearly as possible for everyone to avoid any misunderstandings when placing an order. As far as the cost of the program, we recognize that some consumers may have difficult financial situations.
Indeed, situations like this inspired us to offer promotions similar to the promotion that you signed up for, the Total Transformation Feedback Survey Promotion. To be able to provide consumers with the opportunity to receive a full refund for the program cost in exchange for their time, effort and feedback is a priceless opportunity. Your feedback is vital to us, as we continually try to improve and create programs that will give the most benefit to families.
The price of the program is not intended to overwhelm any of our consumers, but rather to provide incentive to give us honest results as they are applying the techniques of the program. We sincerely hope you are able to find the successes that you had expected when ordering the Total Transformation Program and we look forward to receiving your feedback so that any financial burden you feel is lifted.
After all, we are in the business of connecting families to behavioral solutions that are accessible, affordable, and effective. We started listening to the first disc in the series, and our 13 year old daughter humphed about it in the back seat of the car. We had decided that she needed to be involved in what we were learning just in case she would have input. She demanded that we stop the disc and declared adamantly that it wouldn't work because she wouldn't LET it work for fear that we would thing we were great parents.
We thanked her for her input and continued listening, occasionally making comments and leaving the door open for her as well. She didn't say more that day, but the next day she said, "he really made a lot of sense We are not "done" yet, but we are well on the way to a transformation for our family!
Using the TTP, we have been able to refer back to Dr. Lehman's words as we encounter explosive moments. The explosions have reduced both in frequency and intensity, and we look forward to a continued change as we keep putting the concepts into practice. He take medicine for ADHD but the. ODD is not improving. He gets in trouble in school no because he is not intelligent he is brilliant as one of his teachers had toll me, but because he refuses to do the work. Our relationship at home is very stressful and tense.
We have a power struggle since he is three years old. A counselor recommended the Total transformation program and while purchasing that I found the ODD life line. I'm still going through the program but as it is it had help me recognize what actions I need to take to direct my son in a different way.
Also help me understand that all I can do is to teach him but it is up to him to learn. I see where I have been wrong approaching him and my response to his behavior only has escalated the difficulties. This program is helping me see new avenues of communication and the hope and he will have a better future with a more positive attitude.
The complete guide to consequences showed me exactly what I needed to do in order to be a more effective parent. I have always struggled with discipline and my kids. My oldest child seemed impossible to get "under control". After viewing and reviewing the guide, I have finally found answers to all the problems I had with getting my kids to behave I would recommend this product to any parent struggling with out of control behavior from their child. It works on teenagers and middle school ages equally well!
Thank you for the great resource!!!! This program gave us the tools to help our son to express his feelings. Once we started watch the videos everything made sence. We saw a difference right away. My grandson has problems with anger and he is very defiant.
This is very upsetting to everyone in the family. His father gets very angry with him and does not have patience,which causes terrible confortations. I feel this program will help with these issues. My franson is ding better and his father is trying to be calmer when the out of control fits occur. Jim is reality based. I used the tapes to help in my own life and my moms family.
My work and my friends. This course us not just for kids. It will help you understand adults that have been raised loosely. I can't say enough about it. It will help you every day with life events. It even works with large kids over Jims done an outstanding reality based problem and given the world hope.
Once you understand the problem you can tackle it. It was the best investment ever made. I listen to the cd's over and over. Ease of use with driving. I want to thank Jim for his gift to the worlda touch of reality. The package is well organized and easy to start and listen to. But I personally am having no success in effecting any changes.
I have made some changes to myself, but that does not solve the problem. First of all, thank you for your candid and honest feedback.
We are here to help every family benefit from our programs—even novices and still struggling parents. Your best recourse to make immediate and real change is to work directly with our Parental Support Specialists at This number also should have been included in your Total Transformation package.
They can walk you through step-by-step in implementing each of the program tools effectively in your home and can explain how to use the tools to you if you have any questions.
I also want to say that I identify with your disappointment in struggling with family behaviors. Please don't give up—you are not alone. Truly persistence and motivation to change are the keys to sustained success. Please keep us informed of your situation and experience; we can work with you to improve your experience.
We are disappointed to hear that you have not had success with our program. You might still get the help you need. Alexander Pope once said that hope springs eternal in the human breast, but Proverbs I was heart-sick for so many years but then God allowed this amazing company to come into my life and be a part of the renewal of hope, in many ways, not the least a relationship with my youngest child.
Thanks to the principles I learned in their training I am reaching out in more healthy ways and being consistently loving but firm about what I know is right. I have no words to say just how thankful I am for this program. May God continue to bless all those involved in changing lives and futures. Because my BP daughter, 27 years old, is a different case for this program as I could not use very many consequences for her abusive actions.
Whew when I have been so verbally abused by her, I was getting scared. Then when she drove her car with me in it very very fast because I hadn't agreed with "something". I also read a book, "stop walking on eggshells by Paul T. It coincided with your program and gave me strength to overcome my fears and doubts of being a good parent or not.
Than you for helping me, no, us. I found that the discs did not fit in snuggly and securely, so they frequently had to be fished out of the bottom of folder where they all fell. We totally enjoyed and learned from the program, most of the time it was a reinforcement of what we already knew, but was a great source of support and encouragement.
My husband passed away a few years back when my daughter was 10 years old. He was the disciplinary force in our home for the three older children.
Life got real tough for myself and my girl who was 14 when I got the program. It helped me understand the manipulative ways of kids. It also helped me to understand how my parenting was ineffective and how to be more effective. Now, my daughter knows I mean what I say now. She wants a harmonious home as do I. She now understands the pecking order in the household and that she is NOT my peer. I do believe she is on her way to being a very fine young lady. I am proud of her accomplishments. She is working hard at school and looking forward to a bright future.
I am enjoying her company. Thanks so much for the fine insight and how to deal with the issues we were having. It's not something that happens over night, it's a lot of trial and error, especially on the parents part, but so worth it in the end.
I found I needed to do a total transformation first before my child could. I had to learn the skills necessary to talk to him in a way that he would be accountable for his actions.
Our whole family benefited from the program, we communicate better and our home is quiet and feels safe. I use the Alternative Response quite often, and that alone seems to make the biggest difference!
Don't give up on the program, listen to each disc one at a time, do the workbook, and in the end you will be amazed at the results!! My husband passed away a few months ago and he was the leader of our family and the main disciplinarian. I have a 15 year old son and a 12 year old daughter. I ordered Total Transformation because I knew I needed guidance, I needed to know what action to take and when and I needed support to stay consistent.
It has worked, we are still working at it and I listen to the CD's over and over again because I want to get this right. My kids are surprised at how simple some of the consequences are but you can tell things are getting better.
I am getting more confident in my ability to do this alone. The kids are changing some, they are normal kids that are going to test those boundaries and when they do, I revert back to my teaching from these CD's and respond accordingly. Explaining to my kids this is probably what you feel when you are angry, well guess what, this is what you can do to manage those trigger points.
I have answers for them that work thanks to this program. And this program has shifted my focus, they are not going to be happy when they receive a consequence and that is normal. Focus on the behavior not the attitude. I love this program and I feel like it is going to guide me for the remaining years until they move onto college. The Complete Guide for Consequences really shows that you are not alone in your struggles. It gives examples of detailed problems, and then shows you how to solve these troublesome issues while keeping your cool.
This has helped us with our Autistic son, and even he now compliments the program. Don't hesitate; buy now and you will improve your family life dramatically. Very helpful CD series! These have helped me change my 'hamster on the wheel' past behavior and therefore, my family is in a much more peaceful place. Listen and DO it. I have even some of the information to work with a difficult friend situation.
You will not be disappointed! The only reason I give the program 4 vs 5 stars is that there is always room for improvement in any program. Instead, a DVD with simple instructions and an easy-to-follow system of making the child do the work instead of the parent. James talks you through each step and you come out feeling that this is something you really CAN try. I've been in education for 20 years and I recognize a good system when I see one.
I've used it with my kids and I love the results. I even use it in school too, but don't tell anyone - it's my secret weapon! Total transformation saved my sanity. My usually sweet and caring 19 year old child became disrespectful and out of control almost over night. I suspected drugs and alcohol were part of the problem. I found myself on the floor sobbing with grief. As a single mother, I felt alone and terrified and prayed constantly, yet the behavior continued.
At my wits end, I heard about the free offer from TT and called. Immediately I felt bathed in support and concern. Once my package arrived, I immersed myself in the CD's and put the principles to the test.
The first thing I noticed was a peace that took over me and as I applied the principles, confidence blossomed. Somehow I had given my control away and now I was getting it back.
My daughter began to change as well. I had to do the changing and once I did, I got my precious daughter back. Are things perfect? No, but now I know how to handle things. I believe that TT was the answer to my prayers. The qualities and words that come to mind when I think about the Total Transformation Program, and my experience with it, are: it's-about-time-somebody-said-it, no-bull, parent's advocate, parental lifeboat, resurrection and salvation for families, personal ownership, personal accountability, old-school common sense, teaching and modeling self-control and self-respect, teaching and modeling analytical thought over emotional impulse, teaching and modeling response versus reaction, practical, relevant and effective, immediately applicable, adaptable, respectful approaches, mother's little helper or maybe not so little , effective coaching for effective parenting, parental empowerment.
Every program out there has naysayers, without exception. I encourage parents and professionals to actually DO the lessons and techniques and apply them for a long haul before passing judgment on TTP. And to keep in mind that the changes that will take place will not necessarily be colossal or immediate. A slow drip still fills the cup with strong coffee. The changes I see in my child are stupendous. He now replies, "Yes, mommy. He has completely made an aboutface and I owe it all to The Total Transformation.
If you are a parent who finds yourself hopeless with your son or daughter geting the best of you, try The Total Transformation. It really works. I bought the disks and listened to them in the car. Called the help line once and there was a real person who helped me to calm down and think through a plan.
I have started modifying my approach with my 3 kids and got immediate positive responses. It helped even with my son who has attachment disorder, which is saying alot. The Total Transformation Program is one of the best programs I have ever used. Listening to the CD and working with the workbook is very helpful when dealing with a problem child. I used the program as instructed and it help me as well as my child.
Parents need to listen to the program as a family. Sometimes very hard for the child to sit and listen to what is being said, but after thinking and relating the issues as they were happening in our house, my child would understand why she could not talk to us the way she did.
It really is a great program and well worth the money. Hi my review of The Total Transformation Program is a pleasure to write. My husband also has ADHD. I learned so much from this program that it is true that issues which were happening in our home are no longer. I have told many friends of kids with ADD especial.
I have to say the main question in our case was answered when James Lehman talked about why these types of kids act out is because they do not have any coping skills. That statement almost immediately opened my eyes as to what was really going on with her. I like knowing what I am dealing with - then I can help my daughter - James did that for me. The only issue that I have with the program is the CD's.
Some of them the audio goes in and out at times but only for a second or two. I really did not bother me much.
But the program actually works. And the great part is that I can listen to it again and again and work through workbook as needed for a refresher.
Since the program I have been able to handle her more effectively and get the necessary results and the best part I was able to cancel her sessions within the first 2 weeks of using this program. My son who has always struggled with behavior, and writing in school say with me through all of the tapes. He was disgruntled about it to begin, but at times lifted his head and made statements with grudging surprise on his face like "I do that.
He and I both began to see that he was using many behaviors to avoid dealing with his true struggles, a writing disability and these behaviors were only worsening his situation not making it better.
Over time we agreed to try the techniques the most important of which separating our strong emotions from our arguments really helped. I am also a pediatrician after seeing the positive effect of the program on my son, I have begun to recommend it to my patients.
The Total Transformation Program is truly a remarkable program. It is in the process of "transforming" negative behaviors of our soon to be, 8 yr. We , regretfully, did not use the Parental Support Line, resource. I truly believe we should have I encourage all to reach out and take advantage of this resource! This program is not for those who are looking for a "do this" and get a "quick fix" It challenges anyone in a "parenting" role, to try different approaches. It helps us to change our thinking I also believe it will be an on going program Bravo, and Thank you for this: Total Transformation!
As i have read and watched the total transformation it is so helpful in every day life and every age child from 1 to Everything that James Lehman teaches is awesome. At first i just wonted james to come stay at my house i was raiseing a 17 year old and a 3 year old you talk about tough. I will say that this is for every parent that has a problem with there children. I initially ordered this program just because of my youngest child.
I had no idea it would end up working so well for my 17 and 22 yr old children. I stood open mouthed and shocked that I received the desired results without a fight. I also pick my battles much better. My youngest child whom I origionally ordered for, I was able to realize that there were bigger issues here, and that really prompt me to seek additional proffesionsal help. This program really works. I was skeptical, but the yelling and arguing has stopped in our house. Our child has become much more responsible and respectful.
Total transformation is useful at any age of your children. As parents. Yes, it has helped our sons to have a more positive out look at life. They respect us more and we respect them too! To Whom It May Concern: This program has solved mysteries and caused dialog that might not have ever been known or accomplished. There is hope to those who have lost it. There are others way to communicate and to be relieved of the burden that you as a parent are carrying. You and your children can have a better relationship.
It is possible. Take control of what seemly you have lost control of ourselves. There are some strong messages in this program that will ring true and resound confirmations that will give you a sense of peace that you are finally going down the right path.
This program approaches problem behavior in an objective, business-like fashion. I see this program as a helpful first-aid approach to an existing problem, and a helpful long-term approach in general. I do not see it as a complete child-rearing program, however. It applies to the scope that they intend: altering behavior in desirable in acceptable ways, and teaching children how to cope with issues.
In other reviews many have said the content contained in The Total Transformation is common sense. While the contents are practical and logical they are anything but common. Total Transformation is just as much about the kids behavior as it is the parents response to their behavior. Having worked with youth for several years now I have seen a vast amount of ineffective parenting.
The skills taught in these lessons are just what parents and youth workers need. Even if you think this stuff is common sense it is still a great reminder and will help you freshen up your skills. Take advantage of the survey offer while its still available. Customer service was a breeze. After returning my completed survey I promptly received a refund in just a couple weeks. Anyone who is a parent or youth worker could benefit from these lessons.
This program works. I read about it for a couple of years then finally when I was at the bottom, I tried it. Because you know your child is great, but they have some issues, and that is painful! In the privacy of our home we got the help we needed. James helped us to evaluate our selves and see where WE needed to change in order to get our child to change.
You will swear he lives silently in the corner of your home when you hear him talk about the fights we have with our children, He knows! And he will guide you step by step in how to deal with the problems effectively. The parent hot line is a wonderful tool and helped us so much! They know exactly what you are going through and they help you calm down, and get focused again so you can deal with the problem at hand.
Finally, we can see the light at the end of the tunnel. We have seen improvements in our sons behavior within the first weeks of use this program. Our son is now taking more responsibility for his actions instead of blaming everyone else.
It is a work in progress, and we know there are no miracle cures, but this is as close as we can get for now. The fighting has almost completely stopped. We are liking each other more and more each day. We will always love our son, but sometimes it is hard to like him when he stubbornly make the wrong choice. Those days are get to be fewer and fewer.
Wd are glad we found this powerful program. I was growing increasingly frustrated with the results I was getting when I disciplined my children.
I have read many child behavior books and enrolled in various programs in an attempt to find one system that made sense and more importantly, that was effective. I think my confusion over what to do when was making the problem even worse.
When I started using the techniques in the Total Transformation, I felt empowered. The One Minute Transformation was brilliant in its simplicity and effectiveness. In fact, it has a no-nonsense approach to behavior change, which was quite different from all of the other parenting books I have read.
It gave me practical tools that were immediately effective. There were so many ah-ha! One idea that really struck me was the notion that feeling better about yourself does not bring about better behavior but, better behavior can make you feel better. This was totally opposite from what I had been reading. The whole lesson on creating a Culture of Accountability is something that should be taught to every parent. I am the mother of 4 ranging from 8 months to 7ears.
My surprise has been with how much of the program I can use with the 3 older ones. Getting them to listen to me was a big problem. I am seeing a sinificant difference when I get down on my knees and speak to them. I hope to implement some of the valauble information as they grow older. I am a single parent of two children for the past six years. My son is 12 and my daughter is 8. My son was becoming progressively worse with his behavior, defiance, and attitude.
The constant calls from the school, camp, sports and every other area he was involved in. Our house had become a place filled with tension, fighting and unhappiness. Didn't work worth squat! Don't fall for it; they're out to prey on people who are at their wits end with difficult children. I posted this very question here a while back.
Well, time has marched on. We never did try "The Total Transformation". My son has ADHD and was out of control too. We ended up putting him on medication. We put it off for a long time. It has turned out very well however. He is on Concerta and it has made a tremendous difference. It has helped take the edge off so we can all work together much better on the issues and behavior. It has allowed us to make progress. My son is 10 years old and he even realizes now when the medication is wearing off and will tell us that it is difficult for him to control himself or focus, so we know how to respond.
We have those resbit hours of the day when we can work together better on new habits and such. He is extremely strong willed so we have the same issues basically but we can make and follow boundaries, discipline, discuss much better. Generally we don't administer it to him now on weekends or holidays to give his body a break from the drug, unless he is going to be away from home and needs that extra help to be more in control, not in others space, etc.
His school work has improved tremendously. His teachers are amazed at what he can do. I strongly recommend reading Dr. I was able to borrow them from the library. He does have these on video, which I was also able to borrow. They were excellent in helping us to understand and work with ADHD.
I read alot but these helped the most. I hope you find success. God Bless. Your little guy is special needs. I think these videos are for kids that have just been let run wild without good controls. You might make matters worse. He can't help it and needs professional help. I am retired now, and my daughter is also a Counselor elementary school , plus she is a Behavior Analyst. There are many books written that are not useful. Most importantly, what is the author's credentials.
She should at least have an M. Behavior counseling is very effective, but better to actually see a therapist or counselor. Most insurances cover this. In my daughter's school, she also can refer children to places that accept medicaid, etc. I am sure there will be many out there is cyberland that will disagree with me and that is how it should be.
Get help for your obvious anger issues. You need it. Pattysboi, I disagree with your comment on the No right comment. If we parents do not have rights, who does? Some children do not respond to talking.
An smack on the hand or a spanking does the trick. Allwaysseeking is right. There are many generation of spanking with more good than bad children — I came from a family of three and we all got spank — we all went to college and have good jobs now.
This is certainly a hot topic. From our viewpoint, traumatized kids and hitting are not a good fit. Julie recently posted.. Grandparents: Vital Part of Parenting. Please use the program before commenting. She is anti-negotiating. She said her mother did not use negotiation. In other words that she respects her mother more than a child who has seen a parent as an equal.
That parents run the household not the children. I just mean to point out the positive. She is among us few mothers who will not barter and bargain with a child to get them to do what is right.
I do not think there is any harm in this product. I have seen so many negative remarks about it from people that have not used the program.
Not from this page, but others. If any parent wants to spend the money to try to learn how to be a better parent, then fine, let them. Yes, obviously alot of parents lack the parenting skills they need. This program is to help them learn how to contol their childs behavior, and benefit the child in the end. It cost less than 4 or 5 therapy sessions with most psychiatrist prices. There is a particular child I am referencing that is out of hand. The mother cannot control him.
No one can. He is direspectful and going down a bad path. He is only 10 and getting suspended from school frequently. This program can help the mother learn some ways to handle him.
The boy is a family member of mine and we are currently using the program. No one is forcing you to spend the money on it. So quit dogging it if you know nothing about it. That is great, God bless you. But others need the help and the tools. To anyone that it has helped change their family, I am am thankful. Of course, you have to commit to the program and follow through for it to work though. It is not magical. They do not want their money to be wasted.
And never following through, changing nothing. She also feels more obligated to make the difference for that reason and put in the effort she has been lacking. I think it has made a difference and we are not very far into it. All I can do is pray that is continues to help parents in need of help. I Actually work for legacy publishing and sell the total transformation program and if anyone says its a scam or not a good program u r crazy we just won the best product of award and I work in a room full of real testimonials and still get more on a daily bases.
I think any program that teaches thinking; reasoning over violence, threats; control is worthwhile. I have the program; am here to say that if u have the follow through it will help you to deal with your children; make you see that there is a psychological advantage to being a teacher and caring consultant in your own home.
That is what we all want as parents. To have closeness; care; respect in the home that extends through the child out into the street. I have the respect now; that I did it without smacking my rowdy kids is all just a beautiful thing. So you have never dealt with a child diagnosed with ODD? My guess is no. When you have done everything possible, therapy, meds, tried on your own to change the way you parent one child in comparison to your other children, you are at your wits end.
You are rude and hurtfull to those of us who are just looking for a better life for our children. It pains me everyday that my daughter hurts the way she does and there is nothing that I can do for her other than afirm how much I love her. If this program can help in anyway it is worth the money!! You should really think before you type!! There are consequences for the bad behavior, They are totally consistent with it.
My children were raised by strict discipline and raise their children with discipline… But, I am not talking about a case as simple as unruly kids or ill manners, or mouthy teenagers in a hormonal rage…. I am sorry for the length of this, but, it irks the crap out of me that the holier than thou sit and deem what is wrong with other parents children, without the benefit of knowing crap about them!!
How chaotic life sounds for this family. Have they tried any other counseling besides psych therapists? Read all you can on here and look up Attachment. The parents need intervention now as does the 10 year old. Thank you for advocating for them. Holidays Schmolidays. The phases that children will need to go through and such.
I have 4 children. It is for children who are constantly defiant. One of my four children is going through this not so normal acting out.
It is not random acts. It has been going on since September of I have been seeking counseling, anger management, speech therapy, and more trying to find the root of the problem. But when a child is physically violent to other children and siblings to the point your afraid to leave them in a room together alone….
I use to think it was poor parenting that was the reason for out of control children in public. And for the most part I still believe that. But I now know that is not the reason all of the time.
I know I am a good mother, but my one child is for a lack of better words…. I am still seeking a solution for these issues. I am currently looking into this program after seeing it on the Club today.
Seems reputable especially with the samples I have listened to online. I would really love to try this program but I just cant afford it. After everything Ive read, I think it would help my son.
He is 14, argumentative, over emotional, verbally abusive, thinks nothing is his fault and on top of it he has Type 1 Diabetes. When his blood sugars are high, his behavior gets worse. And trying to keep it under control during puberty is very hard. Im gonna have to try counseling for now — its covered by his MA — but I hope at some point Ill be able to get this program.
Good luck to you all. Hi, I am in the same situation as you are. No money and I am looking at this program for my 13 year old son who also has Type 1 diabetes. Your right and not alone.
I totally understand. Melinda Kris Dickinson :. Hi Melinda, right now they have a deal going on where you can get it for free, by taking a survey when you get done with each chapter. You do have to pay for it up front, but they refund you the money when you get done. I own it, and frankly, this guy needs to be listened to. Who is. Well worth it, and well worth buying it.
They have a new offer — if you get the program and fill out their survey and return it within 90 days, you keep the program FREE…. When I go to the website, there is a disclaimer that says the system is free for parents with boys with ODD, it does not say it is for anyone who fills out the survey. Which is it, free or not for everyone who does a survey? Call to find out for sure. I am so frustrated with my 15 year old son that I just want to pack my bags and never come back.
I love him to death but he is off somewhere in that head of his. He is just off in the head somehow. I hate it sooo much for him. I want him to live a happy, fulfilling life. I just dont get it. It is my understanding that you have to complete a survey as you go through the program in order to get your money back. I agree with Joseph Ullman, the physician who commented previously. I have not purchased the video, but I was very impressed with Mr.
Children learn life skills when they have a parent that is consistent, setting clear boundaries, and enforcing them. The worst thing a parent can do is give in to a child because they fear disapproval and want to be liked.
Much, much more easily said than done. People who have close, healthy relationships with parents, often grieve less when they die, than people who have more distant, ambivalent relationships with unresolved issues.
However, it is obvious her mother was very skilled. She just had an approach that is not currently embraced by most parents. Make no mistake, Mr. I really feel for parents.
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